Dear Reader,
We live in a curious time. The same screens that connect us to the world have become stages where we watch others perform fragments of existence—sometimes genuine, often manufactured, always consuming our attention.
Here’s what strikes me: we’re utterly conflicted about it. We love it. We hate it. We can’t look away. Walk through any airport, any restaurant, any living room, and you’ll see people absorbed in watching other people live—or pretend to live. TikTok performers acting out relationship drama. YouTube personalities debating politics. Instagram influencers staging perfect moments. We joke about the artifice while scrolling for more.
But we’re missing something important. These screens, for all their problems, serve as a kind of release valve for everyday frustrations. That person typing animated comments on a news article at night—they’re working through feelings that might otherwise come out during tomorrow’s staff meeting. The teenager scrolling through social media is processing the day’s anxieties. The sports fan yelling at the television is at least yelling at pixels rather than the referee at their kid’s soccer game.
This isn’t an endorsement of our screen-focused culture. The problems are real—the echo chambers, the time lost, the reduction of face-to-face conversation. But there’s something familiar about what’s happening here. Humans have always needed outlets. We’ve gathered around fires to hear stories, attended theaters to watch conflicts play out, read newspapers to grumble about politicians. The screen just makes it more immediate, more personal, more available.
Consider the alternative. Where would all that everyday irritation go without these digital outlets? The woman watching reality TV isn’t creating drama at book club. The man absorbed in sports debates isn’t monopolizing conversation at the neighborhood barbecue. The teenager building worlds in online games isn’t bored and restless with nothing to do. We’re watching people channel normal human emotions into a relatively low-stakes medium. It’s not perfect. But it might serve a purpose we don’t always recognize.
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t think critically about screen time. The way platforms compete for our attention, the hours that slip away unnoticed—these deserve our awareness. We should absolutely consider balance, especially for young people still learning how to navigate both digital and real-world relationships.
But we might also acknowledge that screens give us somewhere to direct the everyday frustrations of modern life. Better to let people work through their irritations by commenting online than by being short with the grocery store clerk or snapping at their spouse after a long day. The screens aren’t solving our deeper challenges. They’re just giving us a place to temporarily park our stress and restlessness. That serves a function.
The real question is how we use screens wisely—as tools that catch the overflow of daily life rather than becoming life itself. We’re still figuring that out. In the meantime, when someone in your community is deeply engaged with their phone, they might just be decompressing in a way that keeps everyday interactions a little more pleasant for everyone else. The screens, for all their imperfections, might be helping us get along better than we realize.
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