When I entered A-Anon I was at my wits end. I did not know what else to do and hoped someone there could tell me how to get him to stop drinking. They told me to keep coming back, and to read my literature and call members between meetings, for support.
So I did those things. One meeting was on enabling vs helping; all my crying and yelling wasn’t helpful, it was enabling him. It just drove him further away and he drank more. I paid his fines and thought that was helping. It wasn’t, as I had to let him take care of his own consequences.
I was afraid to make changes, but I found the support from other members. Al-Anon was teaching me to do the opposite of what I was doing.
There is so much more, such as learning to take care of myself, get off his back and get on with my life. No one ever told me I had to leave him, and I appreciated that as I loved him.
But by making changes within myself I did feel better and I wasn’t crying and yelling all the time. I did not have that knot in my stomach anymore. I knew God was with me and was helping me; I was not alone. I will always be grateful to God for having someone suggest it to me.
Won’t you come join us? We meet on Wednesday at 6:30 p.m. and there is another meeting on Monday at noon. Both are held at Hope Lutheran Church in Wautoma. Hope to see you there...
Peace, Debbie W.