Al-Anon has adopted the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. Therefore, we work them also, to the best of our ability. The 12th step reads, “Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these 12 steps, we tried to carry the message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” The message is of hope and help.
I came into Al-Anon with despair and defeat, as I did not know if they could help me. After all, I thought I tried everything to get them to stop drinking. I threatened, I cried, I tried shaming them, refused to clean up their messes and then would not follow through on the threat, pay their fines and even buy their beer for them after I told them I would not do it again.
After I arrived in the rooms of Al-Anon, I realized what the members were sharing with me, it was of hope and help I could see how I was in the right place. I needed to keep attending these meetings and be with people that had problems like I had.
The understood what I was going through and was willing to share what worked for them. I would sit there and cry and they allowed me the space and time to do just that. It was a safe place.
There were meetings that I could not share and that was okay too. Even though I could not share, I was listening. It was all hopeful and very helpful, for me to start understanding that I needed to look at my actions and reactions.
My crying and threatening got me nowhere. I was willing to keep coming back. That was where I would continue to find hope and help.
Won’t you come join us? We meet Tuesday nights at the CAPsell building, conference room C at 6:30 p.m. There is also a meeting at noon on Mondays at the Hope Lutheran Church. Both meetings are in Wautoma. Look forward to seeing you.
Peace of the program,